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Playing The Victim: Why It’s Hurting You (And Everyone Around You)

A lot of people nowadays complain about playing the victim card. After all, it is a common term that people have picked up recently. But the problem is not something new. In fact, most people have actually started talking about this common psychological trait of playing the victim.   I know we all use the term “playing the victim”. But a lot of us don’t clearly understand what it means and how a victim card can affect you or spoil your life.   In fact, playing the victim card is nothing more than exhibiting a common set of behavioral characteristics. But in this article, we won’t discuss how we get hurt by people who play the victim.   Instead, let’s explore this psychology in detail. Our goal is to help you detect whenever someone is playing the victim the next time.   What Does "Playing The Victim" Actually Mean? Playing the victim means blaming others for whatever wrongs or negative things happen in your life. Simply put, you feel relieved when you are able to victimize someone for whatever wrong happens to you.   But who do they blame? No, they don't target strangers, actually. Instead, their prime targets are close people who actually care about them. For example, partners, parents, friends, and often colleagues. WebMD sums up the behavior of playing the victim as follows.   Have You Really Faced Someone Playing The Victim In Your Life?   If you know someone who acts like that, you need to read the full article, right now. At first you need to understand that there is a basic difference between playing the victim and being the victim.   When you are an actual victim, it means something bad happened to you. I mean something genuine. But that feeling is permanent and constant.   I mean, let’s say you had a breakup. Simply put, the other person around you actually broke up with you. Instead, they are not playing a blame game. Again, they have nothing else in mind and are not trying to play games with you. But if someone is actually doing the latter ones, they are playing the victim.   What Is A Victim Mentality? People with a victim mentality feel that they are the damsel in distress. In other words, they already assume that they are too powerless. Most importantly, they feel that everyone around them is conspiring to harm them in one way or another.   Now it’s normal to feel victimized after a really bad experience. However, Charlie Health confirms that the sentiment of feeling victimized every now and then is a mental disease.   What Psychologists Say  Psychologists have a specific term for this pattern. It's called Tendency for Interpersonal Victimhood, or TIV. Researchers define TIV as the idea of someone who thinks everyone cheats himself or herself in the relationship.   The TIV measure includes four core components:   need for recognition  moral elitism  lack of empathy  rumination. Takeaway For Readers   Do you need people to constantly validate your suffering? Again, do you secretly believe you're morally superior to those who hurt you? Lastly, do you feel you can't really empathize with others' pain? If you answered “Yes” every time, you need medical attention, I’m sorry, but you have all the traits that say you are playing the victim.   I took these questions from the article in Personality and Individual Differences in 2020. The article is peer-reviewed and has rigorous research. Again, it is not a self-help book. Certainly not a podcast  Dr. Menije Boduryan-Turner, a licensed psychologist and founder of Embracing You Therapy in California, describes victim mentality as   "Playing The Victim is the belief that in any given situation, you are the victim.”  Real Case Studies  I wanted to understand how far people can actually go with the playing the victim mindset. That's when I discovered these landmark case studies from research.   If you want to know how destructive the mindset of such people who play victim is, don’t skip the case study part.  Case 1: Anne And Steve  Psychology Today published a case that I think perfectly illustrates how playing the victim works in a relationship. Steve is head over heels in love with Anne. He may propose to her any day.   But finally he discovers something shattering. Steve finds her with one colleague, and it’s visible that it’s not a formal meeting. No way!    But what does Anne do when Steve brings up the topic? She starts sobbing immediately. Again, she starts clamoring about how others cheated her in the past. So much so that now Steve feels he should not have brought that issue now. At least not now!   His question was never answered. He ended up apologizing. Anne's instant dismissal and her immediate attempt to switch focus to past adversities may be a sign that she is playing the victim to escape accountability for her actions.  This is a textbook case of playing the victim.  Case 2: Ronia's Story  Trauma recovery coach Ronia Fraser shared her personal account. In simple words, she was living what she called her California dream life.   To clarify, she had a successful finance career. Again, a house in the Hollywood Hills. Till that point, everything was going well.   Then she entered a relationship with a man who, behind closed doors, was methodically dismantling her. He used her shared hopes, dreams, fears, and insecurities as ammunition.   He began pulling out one building block of her identity after another. Until the life she'd built collapsed around her. She eventually had to delete and block him and everyone connected to him, and spend two years in hiding, barely leaving the house.  Here's The Twist:  He was the one playing the victim to everyone around them. He was the one telling their mutual friends she was difficult, unstable, the problem.   He was the one who always had a story about how she'd wronged him. This is the dangerous edge of this behavior. That’s why it doesn't just affect the person doing it. It harms the people around them.  Source: https://worldhealthlife.com/narcissist-abuse  Where You Can Go Wrong  Let me be direct. Here are the mistakes people make. Meanwhile, some of these mistakes might make you uncomfortable:  You Confuse Explanation With Excuse.   Yes, your childhood was hard. Yes, something terrible happened to you. I get it; those things are real.   But there's a moment where explaining your pain turns into using it to justify avoiding accountability forever. Victim mentality is learned behavior. Certainly, it is not something you're born with. You have the power to overcome it.  You Use Your Pain Competitively.   This one's subtle but real. When someone else shares their struggles, you quietly compare and conclude yours are worse.   You need to be the most wronged person in the room. In other words, you believe you are so upright or morally correct that others are jealous of you.   For them, they are right, and those who disagree are wrong. This indicates a lack of nuance and an inability to cope with complexity.  You Punish People For Not Validating You.   Others must also validate that the situations were unfair to her every time. Or else they too will be accused of victimizing the person.  That's an exhausting dynamic for everyone around you.  What You Should Actually Do Instead  I'm not going to tell you to "think positive." That's useless. So, here's what actually works:  Start with radical honesty about your role.   Not self-blame as that's totally different. Ask yourself: in this specific situation, what could I have done differently?   Even if you get one thing, start from there. A therapist can help you learn to choose whether to leave a situation or accept it, and to take responsibility for what you can control, including how you react.  Change Your Language Around Yourself.   There's solid advice from clinical practitioners: instead of calling yourself a victim, switch to calling yourself a survivor of abuse.   It's more empowering and can help create emotional confidence for future relationships.  Document Patterns, Not Incidents.   If you keep a journal and look back over three months, you'll see whether the world is genuinely against you. Or whether a pattern in your responses is creating similar outcomes across different situations.   That's honest self-reflection, and it's harder and more useful than anything else.  Finally, get a therapist who challenges you.   Not one who only validates. One who gently pushes back.   Acting with compassion and care is important. But also recognizing that this is likely a learned behavior. Meanwhile, the person may not know how to help themselves.  What To Do Right Now?  Here's what I want you to take away. Playing the victim isn't a weakness. It started, for most people, as survival.   But survival strategies from childhood often become the very things that trap us as adults. The goal isn't to dismiss your pain. To clarify, the goal is to stop letting your pain run your life. And everybody around you.  You've suffered enough already. You don't need to keep paying the same price.

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What Percentage Of Breast Biopsies Are Cancer? Here’s What No One Tells You!

Getting a callback after a mammogram is one of the most unsettling experiences a person can have. Your mind goes straight to the worst. You start Googling. You can't sleep. And if your doctor mentions a biopsy, the fear multiplies instantly.  I understand that. And I want to be the voice that actually calms you down. I know you just don't want me glossing over the facts. I will rather discuss the things that matter clearly, without sugarcoating.   So let's start with what percentage of breast biopsies are cancer?   What Percentage Of Breast Biopsies Are Cancer? Research says that 20% of biopsies result in breast cancer. That means 80 out of every 100 women who go through a breast biopsy walk away with a benign result. Four out of five. In other words, most of the time, it's not cancer.  You can relax a bit more when you look at the bigger picture. The doctor orders a breast biopsy for about 1.5 to 2 percent of mammograms. Does this mean you shouldn't take a recommended biopsy seriously? Absolutely not. But knowing these numbers means you can breathe a little before the procedure.   Why Would Your Doctor Even Order A Biopsy?  Here's the thing about breast biopsies. They're not a punishment. On the other hand, you should see them as a tool. In addition, they're the only reliable way to know for certain whether something unusual in your breast is cancer or not.  Your doctor will send you for a biopsy after imaging tests. But only when the imaging shows results that might be signs of breast cancer. For example, a provider may order one if there is a hard lump inside the breast or an unusual inflammation.   A mammogram shows an abnormal area. At the same time, a breast ultrasound flags something suspicious. It also clearly outlines if you have unusual changes in your nipple or areola. For instance, there may be crusting, dimpled skin, or unusual discharge.   None of those things automatically means cancer. However, the doctor will run the tests to eliminate all odds.  What Actually Happens During A Breast Biopsy? There are a few modes of biopsy to test whether you have breast cancer. Now you know what percentage of breast biopsies are cancer?   But what is the mode of biopsy, if your doctor ordered one. The list shows the processes and when you follow which one:   Fine Needle Aspiration  This is the easiest method. In other words, the process involves removing tissue strands from the breast using a syringe alone.  Core Needle Biopsy  Core needle biopsy goes a step further. This type uses a slightly larger needle, allowing your radiologist to sample more breast tissue.   After removing the sample, your radiologist will place biopsy markers in the biopsy area. These markers are small clips that help them locate the site in case they need to take more samples later.  Surgical Biopsy  Surgical biopsy is the most involved option, but it's also the most thorough. In an excisional biopsy, the surgeon removes the suspicious area and any normal tissue surrounding it, ensuring that most, if not all, of the cancer cells are removed. This is also sometimes called a lumpectomy when performed as treatment.  As for pain? You may feel a slight poke or pinch from the needle during the injection for anesthesia, and some pressure during the procedure. But it is not described as painful.  Does Age Change The Odds?  Certainly it does. That's why you need to be extra careful. To sum up, people in their 40s, 50s, and even 60s are at greater risk. If you ask me at 60 what percentage of breast biopsies are cancer? The number would be 42%.   Research data shows that a breast biopsy at a greater age means higher chances of cancer detection. However, that is not a pattern that medical data shows.   In reality, there is no fixed age at which you can get breast cancer. Yet, people aged 55 and above should be cautious of it.   If I have to draw a median age when the threat is highest, it would be 62. The rate of breast cancer is highest among women in their 70s.   Should Women In Their 30s And 40s Be Worried About Breast Cancer?   Are women in their 30s and 40s safe from breast cancer? According to the BCRF, even fewer than 20% of biopsies in this age group result in cancer. So, the threat is definitely much lower.   As you keep aging, the threat of breast cancer also increases. When you are between 40 and 49, you have the maximum chances of getting diagnosed with breast cancer. The risk reappears again between 60 and 69. After 70, you are very unlikely to be diagnosed with cancer.  What Are The Other Factors That Triggger Breast Cancer Along With Age?   The age map works perfectly well for breast cancer. At the same time, your family history of breast cancer matters a lot. But the National Breast Cancer Foundation states that only 50 to 10% cases of breast cancer are hereditary. So, there is no major concern there.   The next important factor is breast tissue density. But this is a more serious factor. In other words, dense breast tissue increases the risk of breast cancer by 50%. What's worse, it makes it really hard to detect any tumor through the mammogram.   If it is cancer, what happens next?  I won't pretend this section is easy. But knowledge here is genuinely helpful, so let's go through it honestly.  Here's what I want you to hold onto: treatment does not usually start right away. There is time to ask questions, understand your options, and get additional support.  You are not rushed out of the room with a pamphlet. You will meet with specialists, including a surgeon and an oncologist, depending on your situation. After that, they will build a plan with you, not just for you.  And the earlier a cancer is caught through biopsy, the better. That's not a platitude. That's the consistent finding across decades of oncology research. Early-stage breast cancer is dramatically more treatable than late-stage cancer.   Regular screening and willingness to follow through on a biopsy recommendation can literally save your life. Even when the odds say it's probably nothing.  What You Should Actually Do  Here's my honest, first-person advice:  Don't skip the biopsy out of fear. I know it's tempting. The fear of a bad result can keep one from getting tested and diagnosed. However, that instinct will not protect you.  Do ask questions. About which type of biopsy? Also, ask what imaging they'll use. Don't forget to ask what the possible findings mean. Or what happens after each scenario. Remember that good doctors always want you to be informed.  Do keep up with regular mammograms. Current guidelines from the American Cancer Society recommend that women at average risk begin yearly mammography screening at age 40. In case of a prior family history or dense breast tissue, talk to your doctor about starting earlier.  The Bigger Picture  Here's where I'll leave you. Now you know at what age, what percentage of breast biopsies are cancer? However you need to keep these things in mind additionally.   A breast biopsy recommendation is not a death sentence. It's not even a cancer diagnosis. It's a careful doctor doing their job. The numbers back this up. Simply put, the vast majority of breast biopsies come back benign, and even when cancer is found, biopsy results are unsettling but can be life-saving.  Research is also actively improving how all of this works. Scientists have been developing liquid biopsy technology. To clarify, these tests are blood tests that can flag early-stage cancer without any needle in the breast tissue at all.   BCRF-funded researchers have helped expand liquid biopsies to assess blood samples for factors related to early-stage cancer, where previously these tests could only confirm late-stage disease. That's the direction medicine is heading.  The system is getting better. Your odds, with early and consistent screening, are better than they've ever been.  Go to your appointment. Get the biopsy if your doctor recommends it. And remind yourself that four out of five times, the answer is good news.

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What Your Eyes Can Reveal About Your Overall Health And Fitness

Today’s topic: What do your eyes say about your health? When we map out our annual health and fitness goals, the checklist is usually predictable: Gym membership. Renewed commitment to a balanced diet. Wearable tracker to monitor heart rate. Annual physical with a general practitioner. We view our health as a collection of systems - cardiovascular, digestive, muscular - yet we rarely consider our vision as a primary indicator of our physical wellness. In popular culture, we are told the eyes are the "windows to the soul." However, in the world of modern clinical medicine, that sentiment is only half the story. In reality, the eyes are a clear, unobstructed window into your overall bodily health. A standard check-up with an eye care professional does much more than determine if you need a new prescription for glasses or contact lenses. It serves as a vital, non-invasive health screening that can flag serious systemic issues - from heart disease to neurological decline - long before you notice a single physical symptom. So, what do your eyes say about your health? To find out, keep reading! Integrating Vision Care Into Your Preventative Health Routine Preventative health care depends on catching problems early. Simply put, the aim is to notice the whispers of a disease long before they turn into screams. In that context, eye care is a necessary part of any health plan. When you think of eye tests simply as an opportunity to get your glasses updated, you are missing out on their full potential. By getting eye exams regularly, you not only keep track of your eye health but also get insights into your overall vascular and neurological well-being. To illustrate, a regular eye exam by, for example, an optometrist in Hillsdale, would mean that over time, the eye doctor will have tracked any changes in your eyes. This is very useful data that can help with diagnosis and treatment planning later. One of the best aspects of the patient-provider relationship is the fact that it is the healthcare professional who finds out your full health history. In turn, they are able to provide better and more personalized care. Imagine if your retinal blood vessels showed a sharp change, your optometrist would be quick to make a referral to the appropriate specialist. Effective medicine begins with a proactive attitude towards health. It is the very foundation that keeps even the smallest changes at the physiological level from turning into major health issues. The Unique Anatomy Of Early Detection: What Do Your Eyes Say About Your Health? To find out the reason that the eye powers a diagnostic tool so strongly, we have to examine its anatomy, which is quite unique. The eye is the only part of the body where a physician can directly see the nerves and blood vessels of other living tissues. They can see these tissues while they are still active without even making one incision. When an eye specialist peers into the back of your eye, they not only measure your eyesight. Rather, they check your microcirculation. The blood vessels that are very small in the retina are extremely sensitive to bodily changes. If those vessels become inflamed, leak, or change form, it is a sign of a bigger issue. More or less, the same vessel problems would be happening in your heart, kidneys, and brain. Thus, ocular examination is a fantastic diagnostic tool. In fact, a study published by the American Academy of Ophthalmology reports that these tests can reveal more than 20 different health conditions. Usually, the patients don't even realize the symptoms until many years later. The New Frontier: Ocular Biomarkers And Brain Health Perhaps the most exciting trend in modern healthcare is the shift toward viewing the eye as an extension of the brain. Historically, we treated the eyes and the brain as separate entities. However, current expert consensus suggests a deeper link. The retina is actually brain tissue that migrated to the front of the head during embryonic development. This has resulted in the identification of neurological biomarkers. Scientists are now discovering that the thinning of the Retinal Nerve Fiber Layer (RNFL) is frequently associated with the initial stages of neurodegenerative diseases. Doctors can detect tiny changes by performing high-resolution imaging. These alterations can act as the first warning indicators of Alzheimer's disease, Parkinson's, and Multiple Sclerosis (MS). It means a great deal to health-conscious people like me who desire to monitor the changes in health patterns, that this is a complete change of the way things are done. An eye doctor's clinic is becoming a primary neurological examination center. Common Systemic Diseases Hiding In Plain Sight: What Do Your Eyes Say About Your Health? What exactly are eye care professionals looking for when they dilate your pupils? They are searching for the "fingerprints" of systemic diseases. 1. Cardiovascular Health And Hypertension Doctors often call high blood pressure the "silent killer" because it rarely presents symptoms early on. However, hypertension leaves distinct marks on the eye. Practitioners look for "nicking" - where thickened arteries cross over and compress veins. They also look for microscopic bleeding. Catching these signs early allows for immediate lifestyle changes. 2. The Cholesterol Connection In younger individuals, a yellow or blue ring around the edge of the cornea can signal dangerously high cholesterol. Furthermore, optometrists can spot "Hollenhorst plaques." These are tiny deposits of cholesterol that break off from the carotid artery and lodge in the retinal arteries. This discovery serves as a massive red flag for a stroke or heart attack. 3. The Diabetes Early-Warning System Diabetes remains the most well-known disease linked to ocular health. Diabetic retinopathy occurs when high blood sugar damages the delicate retinal blood vessels. This damage causes them to leak fluid or blood. Often, an eye doctor is the first person to diagnose a pre-diabetic patient. This allows the patient to manage their blood glucose before it causes irreversible damage. 4. Autoimmune And Inflammatory Disorders Conditions like Lupus, Rheumatoid Arthritis, and Crohn’s disease cause systemic inflammation. This often manifests in the eye as uveitis - an inflammation of the eye's middle layer. It can also cause painful redness that resists standard drops. For many patients, a persistent "red eye" provides the first clue that their immune system is attacking its own tissues. The Role Of AI And Future Trends Furthermore, we cannot discuss modern vision care without mentioning Artificial Intelligence (AI). Currently, developers are integrating AI algorithms into retinal imaging software. These systems scan thousands of eye images in seconds. They detect patterns of disease that the naked human eye simply cannot see. This technology does not replace your doctor’s expert opinion. Rather, it provides a "digital second opinion" that increases accuracy. In the near future, we may see "smart" contact lenses. These devices could monitor intraocular pressure for glaucoma patients or track glucose levels through tears. This would provide a non-invasive, real-time stream of health data. Making Vision A Priority For Long-Term Wellness Ultimately, true health requires a holistic approach. You would not ignore a persistent ache in your chest. Similarly, you should not neglect the preventative power of a thorough eye examination. Vision care stays deeply interconnected with your entire body - from your cardiovascular system to your metabolic and neurological health. As you plan your wellness goals, you must distinguish between two types of tests. A simple vision screening - the kind you get at the DMV - only checks how well you see. However, a Comprehensive Dilated Eye Exam is different. During this exam, the doctor uses drops to widen the pupil. This allows for the full-body "audit" described above. Take one hour out of your year to get your eyes checked. It is a small investment of time that pays massive dividends for your long-term well-being. By staying proactive, you protect your sight and your overall quality of life for decades to come.

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5 Plasma Donation Center Myths That Might Surprise You

A lot of people fear needles, but that doesn't stop them from donating plasma. Techniques like deep breathing and distractions really help ease the anxiety that can come with it. Most donors actually find that plasma donation isn't painful. What they usually report is just mild discomfort, and any sensation fades quickly with a skilled staff. You won’t significantly lose strength or stamina from donating plasma. Sure, feeling a bit tired afterward is normal, but hydration and rest can manage that. Interestingly, many plasma donors are driven by a desire to help others, not just for the cash. Compensation can, however, increase donation rates, which ultimately saves more lives. The whole ethics debate around paying for plasma donations is ongoing. Some people argue that it ensures a steady supply for patients, while it’s crucial to prioritize donor safety too. Typically, a plasma donation appointment lasts about an hour. But if you plan ahead, you can cut down on wait times. Checking in early works wonders! It's essential to complete a health screening before donating plasma. Certain health conditions and medications could disqualify some individuals from doing so. In this article, we will bust some of the major myths about plasma donation. Debunking Common Misconceptions: What You Didn't Know About Plasma Donation? Here are the major misconceptions about plasma donations.  Myth #1: You Can't Donate If You Have a Fear of Needles Niddles often get people scared. However, you do not have to be absolutely brave to donate blood. The advancements in medical science have made the procedure a lot less painful. Apart from that, using certain other tactics, like closing your eyes and using a distraction, can also help in these situations. Moreover, at times, a certain bit of adrenaline makes everything a lot less intimidating. You should follow certain steps to calm yourself. This includes breathing deeply and bringing a companion to the donation site. Putting on earphones to play some music can also calm you in multiple ways. When you step into those donation centers for plasma, you'll find that reality is often different from the stereotypes.  The staff functions as trained professionals who know exactly how to help the donors who are nervous. Hence, the donors are not really on their own in this situation.  Moreover, the experience can often uncover some hidden confidence in the individuals. Hence, as a donor, you should not be afraid at all.  Myth #2: Plasma Donation is Painful Pain is generally subjective. Hence, it varies from person to person. Some people can explain the pain as a small prick.  On the other hand, some donors have stated that they felt nothing.  However, it is not as painful as people often assume. Furthermore, the advancements in medical science have made everything much easier for people. However, it is not really a walk in the park. But it is far from the kind of horror movie people often describe it as. The sensation generally passes really quickly. However, there are certain things that you should completely keep in mind. You should always donate plasma at places where skilled professionals are available.  Moreover, the expertise of the staff plays a vital role in these situations.  Pepper handling makes the entire process a lot smoother for individuals.  You should never hesitate to speak up whenever you feel pain. Clear communications lead to accurate adjustments that help our people. People generally feel a little sore after donating. However, it generally goes away within a few minutes.   Myth #3: You'll Lose Your Strength After Donating This is the biggest myth one can ever encounter. How did this rumor even start in the first place? People often think that donating plasma actually brings down your strength, like how you see in video games. However, the donor should not lose any muscle mass or stamina. This can happen in reality. However, it is far from reality. Your body is a lot stronger than you consider it to be. Hence, it can bounce back really quickly, unlike what you think. People can feel a little tired afterward. But it is completely normal. You should follow certain things to ensure proper recovery. This includes staying hydrated, choosing healthier snacks, and balancing protein and carbohydrates in the diet. Getting adequate rest can also help people in multiple ways. This will help your body to replenish energy in the best way. Busting the Myths: Financial Incentives and Ethical Concerns Here are the major myths on plasma donation that are related to finances.  1. Are Plasma Donors Only In It For The Money? People generally do not donate solely for monetary gain. While people enjoy the financial incentives, the joy of helping someone in a life-and-death situation is truly something very different. Compensation can be necessary. However, that is not everything a person needs to worry about. The donor feels validated when they receive something in return for the effort and time that they have put in.  2. Is It Ethical To Pay For Plasma Donations? This topic can certainly spark debate, right? Is paying for plasma ethical? There are solid arguments on both sides. Some people support it, claiming it brings a consistent supply, while others are dead set against it.  Is this ethical debate worth stressing over? Personally, I think compensating donors can lead to more reliable supplies, which is what patients waiting for treatment depend on. Let’s break it down a bit: Different countries handle this in diverse ways. Some ban compensation, and others can't get enough of it. Many organizations are serious about ensuring safety and proper oversight in compensated donations. Prioritizing the safety and well-being of donors is non-negotiable! The bottom line is this: ethical conversations are crucial, but we shouldn’t forget about the lives that depend on these donations. 3. The Truth About Compensation For Donors: Myths On Plasma Donation Now, about payment, let’s dive into what compensation actually looks like. Some donors might walk in expecting a windfall, but it’s not exactly a golden ticket. Payments can vary widely.  I’ve heard of people going home with anywhere from $20 to $50 per donation. It's not chump change, but it’s no salary either. Here’s the deal about compensation: Payment usually depends on how much plasma is in demand. Most centers aim to reward donors for their time, not just for the plasma itself. Receiving compensation doesn’t take away from the charitable essence of donating. You might find that the rewards are more about giving back than just cash. But hey, a little incentive isn’t a bad thing either.